As Lisa and Tawny get more comfortable adapting to Work From Home life, but have a lot of mixed feelings. There’s grief for our old ways of life, but glimmers of the positive that the future might bring. A lot of acceptance and gratitude in store!
Chris Marshall, writer and Founder of Sans Bar, joins the girls this week to discuss writing, the intersection of Blackness and Recovery, and of course...Hamilton! He also shares insight on why he created a booze-free bar in Austin, Texas and why he’s obsessed with Lin-Manuel Miranda.
Tawny and Lisa take turns discussing the importance of celebrating SoBerthdays...AKA Sober Anniversaries. They talk about fun ways to reflect on and celebrate the big day as well as the challenges that often come in the days and weeks before. Music minute: Every day is like “another brick in the wall!”
Rejection is something we all deal with throughout our lives. Lisa and Tawny discuss some of the times they’ve been rejected and how they dealt with it. Hint: Rejection is not personal—it usually just means something isn’t a good fit. They also share tips on how to be on the other end of rejection. They both bond over the fact that they met because they rejected alcohol! Shout out to Tempest for making Season 3 possible! You can find them at jointempest.com and @jointempest.
Telling people you quit drinking can be awkward. Tawny and Lisa share tips on how to navigate this conversation. They emphasize the difference between knowing who deserves the full version of the story and knowing when to remember “No” is a full sentence. They also discuss the trend of Sober Curiosity vs Sober Tourism. Shout out to our Tempest for making season 3 possible! You can find them at jointempest.com and @jointempest.
Some can be highs and some can be lows, but there’s a first time for everything in sobriety! Tawny and Lisa discuss “explaining” why you’re not drinking, finding sober-friendly events and new sober friends, and, yes, first sober dates. They also discuss breaking the cycle of bummer holidays, celebrating successes, and being kind to our sober, growing selves. Shout out to our Tempest for making season 3 possible! You can find them at jointempest.com and @jointempest.
Dealing with death and grief are a real challenge for everyone and can test our recoveries. Tawny and Lisa discuss different kinds of grief, the danger of prolonged isolation, and how-to connect and stay sober through it. No surprise, the ladies turn to music, too, at these times. If you’re looking for help with substance use issues, check our friends and sponsor at Tempest. You can find them at jointempest.com and @jointempest.
Lisa shares a big takeaway from studying to become a SheRecovers coach: boundaries are the space you hold around yourself to protect your recovery. Tawny takes it a spicy step further to describe her boundaries as a full-body condom that protects her from the outside world.
Tawny and Lisa chat about how it’s totally OK to have a low sex drive during this very unsexy global pandemic. Tawny offers alternative ways to connect with your partner if you’re not in the mood. Then she fills Lisa in on how Zoom dating has changed and how she thinks the future of dating will evolve. Finally, she teaches Lisa about online orgies and how the porn industry has adapted social distancing. Somewhere in there, the girls talk about their love for David Byrne and the Talking Heads.
Tawny and Lisa interview Amanda and Jardine, whose new book, The Sober Lush, comes out Tuesday, June 2. A Sober Lush life is lived in the present and full of abundance, whether it’s a fancy bath bomb and self-care, doing a small kindness for someone else, or enjoying a live music show sober. And they teach us that we all need an Adult Snow Day from time to time!